Bowlby theorized that attachment behavior is responsible for most major depressions.
He has a point. Damaged attachment can be very hurtful and depressing. In attachment or being too attached, our life depends and sets into the ideals of where we are too much attached.
I am not only talking about attachment to people but also to material things.
Some would kill just to have money and power; people get in trouble because they can't live without luxury and fame. It's pathetic I know.
Life on earth isn't permanent but even if it is, relationships aren't. Even material things fade away, technologies become obsolete.
I am not promoting detachment here, my point is, we should learn how to practice and balance the two; that is a little attachment and a little detachment.
Before, I thought detachment is far better than being too attached.
It's probably due to my unstable and pathetic state before, during those times I was desperately looking for "answers" and overtly reading things about detachment.
Detachment reigned on me.
Then I realized that being too detached will also make a person unhappy. I know that great companions and pleasurable activities aren't permanent however living without experiencing great companies nor pleasurable activities is likewise not that enjoyable, It will not make me happy either.
I think it will make me more of a loser not enjoying my life, the fact that not all people can actually hurt me that much.
And I wouldn't want to die unhappy, and alone...
So it's just a sense of living or playing life safely.
What matter's I cherished some happy moments with people that I meet, I may not have a guarantee of being happy with them forever but just the mere fact that I became happy for a few seconds or even for days would be an utmost sublimity. More importantly, I on the other hand also shared some happiness to others.
Let's enjoy life! Yey!
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