I was watching Breakfast at Tiffany's a while ago...
Paul Varjak: I love you.
Holly Golightly: So what.
Paul Varjak: So what? So plenty! I love you, you belong to me!
Holly Golightly: [tearfully] No. People don't belong to people.
Paul Varjak: Of course they do!
Holly Golightly: I'll never let ANYBODY put me in a cage.
Paul Varjak: I don't want to put you in a cage, I want to love you!
[now insert the Moon River song]
This life is sooo rich and full of fun! And I am living life as it is. A lot of people say that it's nice to be single because you're free. Living life with the assortments of freedom; from responsibilities, time, etc; you can do a lot of things with your own limitations and enjoy life on your own. When you commit yourself to someone, there's this notion that you are already letting yourself attached and your life depends on how that person "dictates" your life. It's like that person narrows your horizon and puts you in a cage and controls your every movement.
However, this movie made me realize that loving another person is not letting that person put us in a cage. It's been a while since my last romantic relationship and I think I am just afraid of taking another shot. I am like Holly,
I am chicken, I've got no guts. I am afraid to stick out my chin and say, "Okay, life's a fact, people do fall in love, people do belong to each other, because that's the only chance anybody's got for real happiness." I call myself a free spirit, a "wild thing," and I am terrified somebody's gonna stick me in a cage. Well I am already in a cage. I built it myself. And it's not bounded in the places I've been to. It's wherever I go. Because no matter where I run, I just end up running into myself.
I got no name, like Holly's cat. A poor slob without a name. I don't know myself.
Thanks Truman Capote and Blake Edwards, and to the casts for this charming movie who tickled my heart, filled it with emotions and opened up greater thoughts and possibilities.